In real life, women (so I’ve heard) are always rearranging the furniture. My friend Emma used to move sofas and entertainment cabinets often. Jess could go to work in the morning and have no clue what direction he’d be facing as he sat in his favorite armchair to watch the evening news. (You did keep the t.v. in play, I assume, Emma!) I can picture Jess coming home bone-tired from work after one of Emma’s energy-filled home rearrangement fits and sitting down on the cat tree to watch the dining room table.
My dad is always complaining because my mom frequently (according to him) determines a better way to arrange the kitchen cabinets so he can never find anything. Once when we were preparing to move for another, better-paying job, my father laid credit (blame) for the move on my mother. He completely shocked me when he stated that my mother, the nesting, creatively domesticated, mostly-stay-at-home mom “got restless”.
It’s time to move on,” he said. “Your mom’s getting restless.
So now, she doesn’t get restless to leave town.
But somewhere in her she’s hard-wired to rearrange the cupboards. Maybe it’s hard-wired into every woman.
Whatever.
It drives my dad nuts when he can’t find … well, nuts, for example. (Dad, they’re under the cabinet that you build on the kitchen table side.)
Or small bowls (up top to the left as you face the sink), or plastic containers (got me there, I don’t have a clue!).
He loves my mom, but this constant changing of the pot and pan storage space doesn’t sit well with him. Personally, I think that’s just an excuse for him to stay out of the kitchen. but that’s a blog for another day.
While Terry and I will surely deal with issues of furniture and kitchen arrangement, it’s also likely that we’ll have issues with the technologies that we use.
OK, everyone who knows me and is surprised that technology plays an important role in our relationship, please stand…I can’t see you…are you standing? Of course not. Silly question
So here’s the real test…when we originally launched our blog, this was the design that I suggested and we used:
But this design has lots of problems. I don’t like the way (or lack thereof) that it shows additional pages. I want a page the is dedicated to telling the story of how we met and re-met. (It’s pretty cool. I’ll get it up there soon!)
I’m tired of the dark background. I like clean and minimalist. Black feels formal. White can go either way which is why I chose this fun header.
I love the multiple meanings behind the two thumbs pointing at each other while our backs are still touching tightly. You can’t see our faces, but you can imagine (and you’d be right) that we are laughing and having a good time. We are also sitting on the floor barefoot so there is a sense of vulnerability, but so confident in our love for each other that we relish being vulnerable to each other. If you could see our smiles, you would understand the playfulness we enjoy with each other, but you could also see the lines and crinkles that indicate we aren’t just naive kids. (if you could see our middle range, you’d definitely know we aren’t kids. At least we aren’t kids who get out and play sports!)
So I made this change to our blog on my own because…
- It’s easy to change back and
- I have more experience with blogs.
But maybe I should have run it by him first. After all,
- We have the same cell phone plan so we talk for free.
- We skype. That’s free and easy.
- We iChat.
- We Twitter.
- We Text.
But we are also living our lives out loud on this blog. And one of the things couples do is to sort out when they do and do not need permission from each other to make changes. Emma never asked Jess where to put the end tables. Mom never asked dad where to put the tarragon.
So where does that place me in this brave new world?
- Can I rearrange this blog and give it a new look?
- Does Terry have that same right?
- If one of us doesn’t like what the other does, how do we discuss that?
We have many things to consider, but none of them scare me.
That’s why I put up the screen shots earlier.
By the time you read this, the header on this blog may change a thousand times just as the two of us will change. But we’ll love each other through every change. Some changes we’ll laugh about upon reflection.
Like these two for example:
I think that we are “much improved”
In the meantime, I’ve captured the screen shots of what the header looked like when I first made the change. That way, if Terry changes it to something else that I and others reading this blog think is goofy, I can always refer to an earlier iteration of my own choosing and say, “see honey, I told you so.”
It’s never too early to start preparing for that eventuality!
BTW, I love you, honey!
Taylor